Except in instances where there are threats of violence and bodily harm, there is generally no law that requires divorcing couples to live apart during the divorce. But sharing a living space with someone you no longer love comes with its share of challenges.
If you have resolved to live under the same roof during the divorce period, it is important that you understand the rules of engagement. Here are three tips that can help you live amicably while working out your divorce case:
1. Plan ahead
It is no secret that emotions and disagreements over pretty much everything can get the better of either of you and drive the relationship into unchartered waters. But while you may not control certain facts and circumstances, coming up with a plan to help you manage them as they come can save the day. Some of the things you can plan around include how you will split household bills, parenting time and personal privacy.
2. Establish and maintain personal spaces and boundaries
Talking about personal privacy, it’s important that each spouse has their own personal space. The last thing you want is to get intimate with your spouse while the divorce is formally underway. To avoid this, consider having separate bedrooms. Additionally, discuss how you will share common areas like the kitchen and the living room.
3. Keep your kids out of your conflicts
If there are children in the picture, it is important that you protect them as much as possible. To this end, make every effort to avoid arguing in front of them. Most importantly, avoid the temptation to turn them into your support system during those emotional times. Again, you do not want to put your children in a situation where they have to take sides.
Divorce can open a floodgate of emotions. Understanding the rules of engagement during divorce can help you assert your rights while sharing the home with your soon-to-be ex.